I have been super focused on us, the women, for the last while…today, I want to focus on the men kind of ;).
What is it about men that we find attractive?
For me, it’s confidences and I feel like that is the case with all women if we’re being honest.
I am all about full transparency and in the spirit of full transparency, here is what I am noticing:
I am an Alpha Female with a deep commitment to my Feminine Divine, here’s a definition I found online;
“An Alpha Female is a dominant female in a group. She dates as many males as she wants, is strong and confident, and a hard worker as well as often busy. She is usually sarcastic because she's powerful and playful. Alpha Females are intelligent, intellectual problem solvers; and though being an alpha female is more of a state of mind than a physicality, an alpha understands that dressing up or sexy increases her power in society, so she does it. Alpha Females are often terribly misunderstood by Beta and lesser males, as evident by the other posts about Alpha Females, and when this happens, she's called a bitch, a cunt, or a whore ... Alpha Females prefer passion over romance, although if it's romance coming from an Alpha Male, a hootttttt one, that's another story…”.
I am in a committed relationship, but the challenge is, is that I am most of those things above.
So, that means I need a pretty particular kind of partner.
What does that mean exactly?
Needs for this alpha female are as follows:
Same as above;)
When there is a lack of confidence in a man, we will view that as a biological weakness, subconsciously.
There are a lot of times that a man and a woman look great on paper. Aligned on most things, but if that piece, that confidence, isn’t there, it’s very hard to navigate and have polarity. (I have a guide on polarity, send me an email and I can share it with you)
And before you get all, “Accept him the way he is;)”…here’s the thing about that.
There is a fine line between accepting and settling.
If we don’t feel safe, we will not hand over the reigns, it’s that simple, even when we are conscious of it.
Here’s How It Would Look
I have a task that I need him to help me with.
He starts to help, then asks, “but how do I do it?”, (lack of confidence), I can say “Oh, you can do it like this…”, but inside, I am thinking, “Why won’t he try to figure this out on his own? Why does he need to ask me every single little thing? Where is this mans confidence?”…
So we may be playing along and being the guide, but a true Alpha female doesn’t want to be the guide at all times, yes…for real.
Many guys will say stuff like, “you won’t let me lead” or “you bitch when I do things like that”.
That is true, but what is truer, is that if the polarity was there and was on point, it would flow much better. We would feel safe to hand over those reigns to them.
So men, what does confidence look like to an Alpha female?
Make decisions that you know you can make without us, decide what’s for dinner sometimes, pick the restaurant based on her likes, buy her the gift and know that she will just be happy that you were thinking of her.
Never ever let her wonder if you want her physically, like EVER, because there are plenty of men out there who will make her attractiveness known. If you think she looks hot, f*cking let her know it then and there.
Don’t let her push you around on the things you are passionate about. We won’t let you, so don’t let us either.
Discuss your dreams with her, she wants to know you are dreaming big too. It’s sexy AF to know you’re both building something incredible!
The biggest turn off for an Alpha Female is passiveness. It’s weakness, to all Alpha Females.
We can argue all day that it shouldn’t be this way, or accept that we have a 2 million year old brain and work with what we have.
I am an Alpha Female who understands how to practice her feminine energy (or at least working on it lol), and because I can accept that, I can now understand with way more clarity that I need someone who can handle that type of woman, because it’s not easy…I do know my worth and my strength however, and when that is managed or channeled, whoa, MAGIC happens!
Would love to hear your thoughts on all of this,